" What Do I Do With My Hands? " And Other Ceremony FAQs
"Wait... what do I do with my hands?!"
You’ve picked the perfect outfit, the music is queued up, and you’re standing at the front. Suddenly, a terrifying thought enters your brain: “Wait… what do I do with my hands?!”
I promise you, 90% of couples ask me this during our rehearsal. Standing in front of your favorite people can feel a bit unnatural at first. Here is my foolproof guide to not looking like a stiff board at the altar.
Just remember.
Hold Hands! It sounds obvious, but holding your partner’s hands is the easiest solution. It grounds you, gives your hands a job, and looks fantastic in photos.
The Bouquet Hold: If you are holding flowers, drop them down to your belly button. People tend to hold bouquets like a shield right under their chins when they get nervous! Drop the shoulders, lower the flowers.
The Pocket Rule: For the suit-wearers, one hand in the pocket is totally fine—it looks relaxed and suave. Just avoid jingling your car keys while I’m speaking!
Embrace the Awkwardness: If you need a moment to shake out the nerves or wipe a tear, do it. Your wedding isn’t a Broadway performance; it’s real life.
If you are feeling the butterflies, just look at your partner, take a breath, and remember I am standing right there to guide you through the whole thing.
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